If you've explored different kinds of intimacy online, you might've come across the term "scissoring." It's a sexual act where two partners rub their vulvas together in a position that roughly resembles the shape of a pair of scissors. 

Scissoring is a fun, intimate, and effective way for two partners to stimulate each other, but if you have a penis, you're out of luck, right?

Not quite!

There's actually a sexual act that can be described as "scissoring" but for partners with penises!  It is generally considered a form of non-penetrative sex.

What is Frotting?

"Frotting" is a sexual act where two people with penises rub their erect members together for mutual pleasure. It's a form of non-penetrative sex, and is very effective at bringing two partners closer together, and at giving them an enormous amount of erotic pleasure too!

Why Should You Try It?

Frotting is very popular online for the following reasons:

· It Promotes Intimacy: Frotting is a great way to feel closer to your partner, both physically and emotionally.

· It's Safe: Frotting is one of the safest intimate actions you can perform with your partner, as it can be done without penetration and without sharing bodily fluids, which greatly reduces the risk of sexually-transmitted conditions.

· It Pleases Two People at Once: Frotting promotes mutual pleasure, which is a great way to become more conscious of your partner’s enjoyment, reducing selfishness in sexual environments. Remember, sexual acts should always be about mutual pleasure, never just your own!

Types of Frotting

Like most kinds of sexual stimulation, frotting can be done in many different kinds of ways. You can thank the countless pleasure pioneers who have experimented with their partners to discover the best, most effective, and most comfortable ways to elicit pleasure from each other's bodies. 

But what have these bold sexual explorers discovered?

Classic Frotting

This is the most common, and most popular kind of frotting. It involves two partners rubbing their erect penises together while face-to-face, while either standing or laying down, one on top of the other. 

Usually, partners will buck their hips and thrust lightly so that their penises massage each other in a pleasurable way.

Experts recommend that beginners go very slowly and gently, and even for them to use lube, lotions, or to put a pillow between them at first. These precautions can help reduce chafing and bruising, especially if the partner's don't know how hard to thrust yet. 

Intercrural, or "Thigh" Frotting

Intercrural is just a fancy way of saying "thighs." Nowadays, a movement has emerged online that explores using different body parts to stimulate a penis, and coming up with a name to add "job" to the end of. You've probably heard of "tit jobs" (using the breasts to massage the penis), "hand jobs" (self explanatory), "foot jobs," "blow jobs," etc. 

There is such a thing as a "thigh job," where one partner wraps their thighs around the other's penis and moves them up and down, massaging and pleasing the penis. This is especially effective if the partner has a thing for legs and thick thighs.

Well, there's a way for two people with penises to get in on the thigh action. Intercrural (or thigh) frotting involves one partner wrapping their thighs around the other's penis, and then moving up and down so that their own penis touches their partner's below, adding to the pleasure for both parties!

“Dry Humping”

"Dry humping" is an act where two partners come together while wearing clothes, simulating the thrusting and proximity of sexual intercourse while never removing their clothing, making penetration impossible. 

"Dry humping" works as a very effective way of frotting as well. Two partners can "dry hump," allowing their erect penises to rub together through their clothing.

In fact, experts recommend that beginners to frotting first try "dry humping." Wearing clothing will help prevent chafing, bruising, and most injuries, especially when wearing clothing like jeans and boxer shorts, which can provide padding to protect delicate areas like the testicles. 

How to Frot

Now that we've gone over the most popular kinds of frotting, you're ready to try it out for yourself!

1. Communicate with your Partner: 

Remember, like any erotic act that will be performed with a partner, you need to get their consent, and this can only be done after explaining what you want to do clearly. Listen to your partner and also ask questions, two sure ways to ensure effective communication. Specifically, ask your partner about boundaries, no-go zones, turn-offs or triggers, and establish a safe word or action that means ''stop.''

2. Practice with some Solo Frotting:

Yes, you read that right! Even if frotting is an act that requires two people, that doesn't mean that you can't practice it yourself first.

Help yourself get an erection, and then use a pillow, a dildo, your hands, or any other soft surface, and thrust your hips lightly to rub the skin of your penis onto the surface.

This can be a great way to see what feels good for you, what kind of thrusting is best, and what hurts or feels uncomfortable.

3. Set the Scene:

Trying out any kind of new intimate action should never be taken lightly. Remember, people have different levels of comfort, so it's always best to try new things out in a comfortable place where you and your partner have both interacted intimately before.

Be sure to use a place that provides:

a. Privacy: a private room with curtains is best.

b. Comfort: make sure to provide blankets, a soft surface, towels, or anything you think your partner may need to feel more comfortable.

c. Relaxation: set the scene with candles, some incense, some relaxing music, or anything that your partner has told you helps them get rid of stress or anxiety.

d. Confidence: when people are comfortable, they can be more confident, so listen to your partner and also use what you know about them to help make them feel great.

e. Sensuality: lighting candles, picking the right music, and creating an intimate or romantic environment are great ways to promote sensuality.

4. Apply Lube!

Because frotting involves rubbing the delicate skin of your penis against either your clothing or your partner's member, chafing, bruising, or even tearing could happen if your skin is dry.

So be sure to apply water-based lube, as it will help things go much more smoothly!

5. Get Each other Erect:

Remember, in order to engage in frotting, both you and your partner must be erect. So massage each other lightly, engage in foreplay like kissing or close dancing, and get erect. 

You don't have to be fully erect to begin frotting, as the proximity and massaging that frotting entails will most likely get you the rest of the way there, but you don't want to start frotting while being flaccid!

6. Ease into It:

Like any new sexual activity, frotting is best experienced if you start it slowly. So ease into things by getting close to your partner and moving together so that your crotches touch lightly.

7. Find a Rhythm:

Remember when we recommended putting some music on? Kissing isn't just about mashing your lips together with your partner's, and frotting isn't just about rubbing your crotch together with your partner's. 

There's a rhythm to any kind of erotic activity, a general vibe and connection that two people can feel instinctually. To find that rhythm more easily, put a song on that you both enjoy, and dance closely together. 

As you dance, bring your crotches together slowly and gently. Be sure to cherish each brush of you and your partner's most intimate parts, pressing your erect member into your partner's.

8. Massage Your Partner's Member with Your Own:

Now thrust gently forward and massage your partner's erect penis with your own. Like with masturbation, hand jobs, or even blowjobs, remember that circular motions and rhythmic massages work very well for eliciting pleasure from the penis, so try to incorporate these kinds of movements into your frotting!

9. Don't Stop Til You Both Get Off!

One of the challenges of frotting is knowing when to stop. Remember, frotting is all about mutual pleasure, so just because you or your partner has climaxed, that doesn't mean that you should stop. You should be mindful of the other person's pleasure, and only stop once you both have gotten off!

This brings us to one of the biggest challenges in frotting. Frotting requires two erect penises and, once one of you climaxes, their erection will most likely die down quickly.

Luckily, there's a great way to combat this!

10. Use a Cock Ring!

Cock rings are remarkable tools that work by constricting the blood flow around the base of the penis. By slipping one on when you're erect, you'll be able to keep your penis erect for longer and also be able to delay climaxing, which will make you last longer in bed!

Many cockrings also have attachments that can stimulate another person's clitoris or penis, making them ideal in mutual pleasure scenarios.

If you and your partner know each other well, you probably know who is most sensitive and therefore most likely to climax first, so slip a cock ring on that person and, ideally, this will make both of you climax together!

11. Change Positions

Frotting while standing is a great way to get the basics down, but you'll soon find that standing up for an extended period of time like this can make you tired.

Staying in one position for a long period of time can also get monotonous or even boring.

Luckily, you don't have to stay in one position for a whole frotting session!

Great Frotting Positions to Try

Changing positions during frotting will keep things fresh, exciting, and unpredictable (in a good way!). 

Let's go over some basic positions now!

1. Sitting and Frotting:

Sit on the edge of your bed or on a chair or couch and have your partner climb up on top of you gently. 

Your partner can put their legs on the bed or couch and sit on your upper legs, leaving enough space so that both of your penises are close together.

Now, rock your partner back and forth so that your erect penises rub together, and find a rhythm to create a stimulating massage!

Caution: this position requires flexibility, good core strength, and a stable bed or chair. Don't attempt it if either of you has back, leg, or hip pain or think you may be in risk of such pain.

2. Full Frontal:

For this position, one of you will lie on their back while the other lies on top. This is almost like the classic missionary position, but in this case you must remember that the person on top will be pressing on the person below with their full weight.

If you don't support one another, the pressure of both of your penises mashing together can be quite uncomfortable and even painful.

To counteract this, it's best for your partner's legs to be splayed slightly to the side, allowing them to control their descent onto you so that your erect penises can massage each other. Now, thrust gently up and down to create stimulating, intimate contact between your erect members!

Conclusion

Now you're a frotting expert! Remember, froting is about mutual pleasure and requires two people's consent. Be sure to practice beforehand, listen to your partner and, most importantly, have fun!

Check out the following blogs for more information on frotting if this one piqued your interest!

https://www.wellandgood.com/what-is-frottage-sex/

https://menrus.co.uk/sex-content/frottage/