Rihanna's right: "Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me."

Sex welcomes all. No matter where you come from, or what you prefer, it's an act that encourages you to explore what feels good. There's simply no right or wrong and all there is to it is satiating curiosities!

If vanilla's where it's at, then that's okay! But if that feels too tame, then maybe the world of BDSM is perfect for your tastes.

Which is why we're here today! For the ones who love to mix pain with pleasure, this is the right place! We're exploring a small yet impactful part of BDSM which are bondage positions. This article runs down which ones are a must-try and how each can satisfy anyone's BDSM kink!

Recap of BDSM

Before we dance to the beat of S&M, let's recap what BDSM is. According to WebMD, it is "a term used to describe sex that involves dominance, submission, and control. The practice typically involves one partner taking on a more dominant role during sex, while the other is more submissive."

One of the ways to assert dominance or express submission is the participation in bondage positions, which is defined by Masterclass as the "form of BDSM where one person ties up their partner in a sex position. The process can be as simple or intricate as the couple desires."

Things to Do before Bondage Play

As tasty as this all sounds, there are things to be done to assure that bondage is done safely. Based from the same article from Masterclass, here are four things to do to get started:

• Set rules and boundaries. Remember that there's an element of pain at play here and one does not want to get to a point where pain becomes…well, painful. Make sure to discuss likes, dislikes and what is coined as "hard nos" which are acts that should never be done regardless of the mood and setting of the play.

• Choose a safe word. Especially when things start to go out of hand. A safe word will give power to either people in a couple to end a play as soon as they feel discomfort or anxiety. This will ensure that their boundaries are respected and the beauty of bondage play is preserved.

• Start small. Acts like bondage can get overwhelming very fast. Starting small can remove pressure to perform perfectly at the start and create an environment where patiently exploring is top priority.

•  Understand the risks. It doesn't matter if this is a part of sex. Bondage incorporates elements of pain and positions that are at much higher risk of harm than other acts. Understanding this risk allows for the careful conduction of BDSM, and more specifically bondage.

Four Bondage Positions for Your Consideration

Now that the basics have been established and rules have been set, it's time to run-down the four bondage positions that can satisfy one's BDSM kink.

Knees to Chest

Cosmopolitan says that this position requires one partner lying on their back with their ankles and calves bound together. Meanwhile the other partner drapes said legs over their shoulders before penetrating them – creating an environment where the partner lying on their back submits to the whims of the other through releasing control of their own body. Bounding the ankles and calves can be done through a toy called a "sling" – made from vegan leather and padded to assure deeper penetration without the burn marks. This one from HoneyPlay Box is adjustable, keeps the legs wide open and offers neck support so no muscles get strained too!

Downward Dog

From the same article at Cosmopolitan, this position has one partner handcuffing the other's wrists behind their backs then proceeding to lay them on their stomachs so they can penetrate from behind. This gives a similar feeling as "Knees to Chest" with the added intensity of anal penetration. The perfect toy to get the best from Downward Dog is this locking harness from HoneyPlay Box. Its soft, adjustable buckles make sure to keep one restrained without hurting them – which can inspire couples to use this when on the mattress, ground, kitchen table or wherever flat surface you can get it on!

Conquistador

Taking another page from the Cosmopolitan article, the Conquistador is missionary sprinkled with the BDSM flavor. It's perfect for couples who are starting fresh in the realm of bondage play because it establishes comfort and familiarity through a classic sex position. To give this the BDSM edge, using a bed restraint binds your partner to the bed while the other pleasures them through clit stimulation or penetration. This position isn't limited to beginners or newbies, this can also be done by more experienced couples who are looking for something simple yet satisfying during some times.

Hogtie

Last but certainly not the least, a Hogtie is a more advanced form of bondage play where one partner is lying on their stomach while their wrists and ankles are bound together with one tie – making this one of the most intense submissive positions. Traditionally, a hogtie is done with BDSM ropes but it can also be done through a bondage kit set like this one if one prefers a padded alternative. This position opens one up to deeper anal penetration or oral since their face will be laying on one side of their cheek, opening their mouth up to receive a leaking hard penis or an equally delicious strap.

Conclusion

There you have it! A quick yet comprehensive guide on the bondage play positions to be tried with your partner in order to feel the deliciously painful high Rihanna describes in her song: "S & M". If there's one thing to remember in engaging in bondage play – it's safety. Prioritize each other's well-being so no one is harmed during the act and can continue to be enjoyed despite the risks it poses. Go ahead and satisfy your kinks!